When I first became a mom I was done with college, working days, nights, and weekends. I never imagined staying home being a stay at home mom. When I would drop Dylan off at daycare I was miserable. I came to work crying often. I was mortified what was going on when I wasnt around, and didnt want Dylan to be laying around (even though he was just a baby) I had scheduled eatings, tummy time, play time I wanted maintained. A friend joked around with me and said "No one is going to be good enough to watch Dylan." She was absolutely right. I dont think anyone is as good as the childs parents.
I became a stay at home mom when Dylan was almost 2. It was great he got a lot of one on one time with me, and learned alot. He was my shadow and my little pal. He would ride on the vacuum when I would vacuum, help me cook, he would have chores like putting silverware away, and dusting (granted I would redo his work but it was the idea.) We would go grocery shopping I would tell him what to grab and he would put it in the cart. Trips to the park, walks, pool days,play dates library trips is what my life turned into.
I guess I forgot that he would soon grow up and need his mom less. Hes now 6 he goes to school and the minute he walks in the door his friends are ringing the door bell. I never had to make time for one on one so it is new to me. We came up with day dates...mom and Dylan date, and daddy dylan dates. I sit down with Dylan and make a list of fun things to do on our date. If we have a little extra money we will do something extra fun like the zoo. He will circle the ones he wants to do and we will mark it on the calender when our date is going to be. Dylan looks forward to every date.
With dad being in the military being gone often and tired when he is home this was a good way to spend time together. Also Dylan being a big brother of a child with special needs its difficult to have that one on one time in the home. I have decided to make an extra effort to make Dylan feel just as special and important when he was our only child for 5 yrs. Story time is not a combined story time with both the boys. Mike and I switch off from one bedroom to the other. We have always read to Dylan before he could speak and it is his favorite time of the day.
I also try to make Masons doctor appointments in the morning when Dylan is in school so his life doesnt feel like it is centered around Mason. Dylan has become the sweetest, kindest person and I honestly believe its all the attention, love and one on one time with both his parents. No matter how busy, or complicated life gets we will continue to make that effort. Even if its one on one time getting groceries! : )
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